Wednesday, April 22, 2015

子どもを捨てる!? Let Go of Your Child!?


Hello, I'm Kazu. Have you ever thought about ”who you really are”?  You might sometimes wonder what you actually want to do in life, even though you strive hard for your better life.

Your True Self, the most wonderful self knows all the answers.

"The true self" here doesn't mean your true feeling or real intention that is often compared with stated reasons, but the authentic self that is united as one with life of everything in the whole universe including  all the natural elements.

Therefore, of course it is common for all humanity. It is the most wonderful self that lies deep down within you.

Ever since I discovered my true self through a seminar developed by Yasuyuki Sato, I have experienced so many changes in life, and I myself got a qualification to offer the true self discovery seminar. 

As I present workshops both in Japanese and English, I have witnessed many wonderful experiences of people from different countries who actually met their true nature.

When I first met Mr. Sato, my main concern was about my children. 

Back then, I firmly believed that one of the essential conditions for success was to have a high academic background, so I pushed my children to study very hard so as to let them to have a satisfying life.

However my worries came from the gap between my desire and what my children really wanted. Whenever I asked advise from Mr. Sato about child-raising, he encouraged me to let go of my children, in other words, to let go of my attachment to my children.

I felt like what I had been doing was precisely the opposite of what he said.

What Mr. Sato advocated was to let go of everything about the children in mind, not like to let go partially. 

He told me to make up my mind not to worry about my children whatever they might choose even if they become homeless.

It is true that wild animals don't pay too much attention to their cubs like we do, because it goes along with the law of mother nature. Only human parents may hamper the child development in many cases. 

He continued that if we could make up our mind to let go of them to that extent in our mind, children would rather grow up to be a good and resilient person.

He also simply explained how a good way of child-raising by using a metaphor of flowering.  

Essential conditions to have beautiful flowers in bloom are sunshine, soil, water, and fertilizer. 

The sunshine here means good relationship of mother and father. The soil means respect for parents and ancestors. Respecting ancestors is to create rich ground.

Water means parents' behavior which is honest and open-minded. It is also important to have a good communication with each other.

Lastly, fertilizer implies praise children, especially when they rather made a mistake or failed. You can teach them that they can learn a lot more through the experience of failure than success.

You shouldn't mold them into your own liking or shouldn't have a strong desire about their future. Otherwise you may discourage their initiative. All you have to do is to praise your child while you let go of your attachment to them.

It will be great if we can carry through such a way of child-raising. It is just wonderful if we can recognize our own children as perfect existence all the time.